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Posted by on Jun 28, 2017 in Blog, Developmentally Appropriate Practice, My Child Won't, Need To Know Info For Parents, Teaching Strategies |

How Preschool Teachers Get Kids To Nap

How Preschool Teachers Get Kids To Nap

I hear it every year. “How do you get kids to nap? He doesn’t do that for us at home.” Children in group care are expected help at clean up time, clear their own lunch and snack, set up their own cot with blanket and bear, even perform classroom jobs. I always complement parents with my reply…”It shows he’s been listening to you. He knows what you expect from him when he’s away from home.”

Make Your Expectations Clear

It’s all about our expectations. A seasoned teacher and mentor of mine (even if she didn’t know it) used to say that “Children will rise to meet our expectations.” I’ve come to see its true.

This is as true at nap time as it is throughout the day. Parents often don’t think their child will nap at school. With the different surroundings, different routines, parents often are apprehensive about nap time. The best teachers aprroach nap time with high expectations for each child. Our expectations will evolve throughout the year with the children’s growth and development.

Will all children nap? Not every day, but all of the children will rest their bodies and have some down time. Teachers want their children to be successful all throughout their day. A can-do attitude is as important at nap time as any other time of day. This is what parents need to know.

Nap time is planned for just as circle time or morning meeting is. We put as much thought into nap time as other parts of the children’s day. We put their cots out with thought as to who will likely talk and play together, who can tolerate the door opening when teachers come and go covering each other’s break, which children need to be in the darkest spot, etc.

Teachers implement their nap time plan, give the plan time for children to assimilate, asses what works and what’s not working, make changes as needed.

First Things First

First, we expect children to be active. Active playground/gym time is so important for developing body’s and minds. Even in the middle of winter bundle them (and you) up and get outside! When it’s too cold to go outside kids will still need active play. Teachers know how to integrate active play into each day’s plan. So now that the kids (and you) are worn out it’s time to think about the next step.

Routine, Routine, Routine.

Children do best when they know what to expect next. Just as with the other parts of their day a set routine that rarely changes will help every child succeed. Just as we advise parents to make bed time very routine we do the same with nap time. Read a story, put on quiet music, and EVERYONE GOES POTTY! lol

One of the best blog posts I’ve seen on the topic of preschool nap time is Vanessa Levin does an interview with the blogger from that is great.

We begin with a clam, relaxed transition. “Put your blankets on your cots then meet me in the book area.” Read a quick, calming story, or some deep breathing exercises, release children in small groups.

It’s helpful at the start of the new year that each of the children get a little one on one at nap time. This lets them know you care about their nap, if it’s important to you it will become important to them. Maybe tuck each child in with a quick “Snug as a bug in a rug.” or “Don’t let the bed bugs bite.” This might be more than some of your children get before bedtime at home. Toddlers obviously will need more (and earlier) nap than 3’s or 4’s.

Some teachers introduce chapter books at nap so children use their imaginations rather than illustrations. Still other teachers use books on tape or cd but again no book, just listen. Whatever routine you decide on keep it simple and keep it the same. Some states regulate how long of a nap time must be offered but generally 2 hours is the maximum.

Tips and Advice

  • Just as kids who help grow and cook their own meals are more likely to eat the meal, kids who set up their own cots will be more likely to rest.
  • Teachers give each child a moment to tuck in and say sleep well.
  • Dim the lights put on quiet (classical) music. Choose music that is exclusive to naptime, it’ll be an audio cue to sleep.
  • Teach naptime skills. Roll play if it’s difficult.
  • Follow children’s developmental abilities. Start at the beginning of the year with shorter books, longer one on one, backs rubbed. Later in the year longer chapter books, quicker tucking in.
  • Plan for non-resters. Quiet bins, small flannel boards, books will come in handy. Oxy-moron: naptime activities.  😉
  • Check state regulations for nap time requirements. Some require 2 hours of nap time daily, others only require 15 minutes of rest to be offered.
  • Stay present while busying yourself. Children know you you are still observing them while you get work done.
  • When nap is over wake the children calmly and individually. Turn the lights on last!
  • Check out my other posts on the topic of sleep herehere, and here.

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Posted by on Aug 4, 2016 in Bedtime, Blog, Blog, Families, My Child Won't, Sleep Issues |

My 2 Year Old Won’t…

My 2 Year Old Won’t…

My 2 year old won't  My 2 year old won’t…

We’ve all at least heard of the “terrible two’s” many parents have experienced the phenomena first hand.  Whining, refusing to eat; sleep; or cooperate in general, and temper tantrums are all characteristics we associate with 2 year olds. Many toddler’s first an favorite word is “no” which can continue the negativity.

Well what if it doesn’t have to be like that? I’d like to help parents learn how to defuse some of these situations when they come up. Even better I’d like to help parents prevent these behaviors all together. Let’s end the notion that two year olds are terrible!

The new section of this blog called My child won’t… is designed to help parents understand where some childhood behaviors come from. With an understanding of developmental milestones parents can work through issues more confidently.

First some background on toddlers. Two year olds are not small adults, they are still developing their understanding of the world. Reasoning with a 2 year old isn’t advisable! Certainly parents should explain things to their toddler but long explanations will not help you get the desired behavior.

Toddlers are just realizing their autonomy. They are beginning to understand they’re parents are separate entities from themselves. Infants and very young toddlers operate from the notion that you are somehow attached to them.

With this new found autonomy also comes a sense that they can control their environment, and maybe even you mom and dad! You will be smart to allow your toddler much control during this time. You’ll also be smart to set a few wise limits and stick by them.

As a former toddler teacher (currently teaching preschool) I’ve listened to many parent say “My two year old won’t clean up their toys at home.” I’ve advised countless parents to use the same techniques we use at school. I’ll share some of those techniques with you below.

My 2 Year Old Won’t Clean Up Toys 

There are several ways to approach clean up time with your toddler. The tasks should be fun and easy. Approach your toddler with a daunting chore, and you’ll likely get your two to be terrible.

  • Have reasonable expectations and make them clear and easy to understand.
  • Make the rules clear and firm. You choose the rules because you know what’s safe in your home.
  • A one toy at a time rule might be too much for a child who plays alone or with siblings. Although if you are there playing too (preferably for the most part) you might want to employ this rule.
  • With the one toy at a time rule the child chooses a toy and the expectation is to put it away before choosing the next.
  • Toys for toddlers need to be on low shelves, in bins or baskets. Make sure your toddler can control the environment with out much help from you.
  • Rotate toys. Your child doesn’t need to have every toy in the house accessible. We find in the classroom children master most toys and activities in about two weeks.
  • Rotate books as well. You might want to do this seasonally, or with holidays. In the classroom we rotate the books weekly.
  • Make clean up fun. If it’s a huge chore, with angry parents shouting orders you’ll get resistance. There are lots of ways to make clean up more fun.

Here’s a great video of how cute it is when toddlers clean up.

My 2 Year Old Won’t Take A Nap

Napping can be effected by the same developmental milestone (autonomy) that can effect a two year olds’ willingness to clean up toys. Toddlers are just learning that they can have control over their own bodies. This autonomy can make them try to control you too! Children this age need grown ups that can hold their ground on the family expectations and rules.

Again I can tell you that teachers at thousands of child care centers get groups of 2 year old children to nap every day. Of course not every child sleeps everyday and that’s an important point for parents to remember at home.

Finally, a key factor in getting any child to nap is tiredness. If a child sleeps in late, and sits idle all morning passively watching TV, a nap might not be possible, or at least not until late in the day. The take away here is to get your toddler up and active early in their day. These tips might help with a child who won’t take a nap.

  • Routine is everything. You choose the routine as you know what works for your family.
  • Physical activity (out doors if possible) will help any child be tired by nap time.
  • The rest of the house should be calm but silence should be necessary.
  • Expect your child to sleep. Children strive to meet your expectations.
  • Busy yourself during nap time. Checking on the toddler will be disruptive. Don’t be the reason your child stays awake.
My 2 Year Old Won’t Stay In Their Bed

Right around the second birthday most parent introduce the big kid bed. This can pose new problems for parents including safety hazards. Let’s address safety first. If your home isn’t “child safe” you’ll be smart to make it so before introducing the new bed. Even if you’re home is safe for your child during the day, while you’re awake, can you be sure your child would be safe wandering around the house while you are sound asleep? If that sounds a little scary there are some solutions to consider.

  • Bed rails will prevent children from falling out of bed, and might help keep them in the bed just as a deterrent but determined kids will find their way out.
  • Consider a gate on the bedroom door that will allow the door to be closed. Like a second stop gap.
  • Consider gating staircases in your home. 

Some tips for parents introducing the big kid bed.

  • Set clear expectations and limits.
  • Have a “can do” attitude.
  • Just as with napping- routine is everything!
  • Bath, brush teeth, potty, story (or two), sleep.
  • Be sure your child is tired.
  • The rest of the house should be clam but silence shouldn’t be necessary.
  • Remember, as parents, you deserve some “us time” in the evening.

See how these parents get their toddler to bed in this cute video.



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